Where were you ten years ago? Where will you be ten years from now?

In the pastor’s message a few Sundays ago, he asked the question “If you could go back to any age, what would it be?”

I answered 32. My friend asked why I chose 32. I had to really think about how to answer her. It really was just the first thing that came to my mind in that split second.

When I thought about it, though, that was about the point that my life took a pretty significant turn for the better.

I had struggled for three or four years before that through a very tough season in my life that included surgery, a car wreck, a divorce, a break up and mountains of debt and poor choices (at least it felt like mountains). Age 32 was when I “came to” and started turning it all around. I landed a job with a significant increase in pay in a really nice city with a lot of promise. I started becoming myself again after wandering aimlessly for a few years “trying to find myself”.

After that, it was not all positive, it wasn’t all rainbows and daisies, but I definitely moved the financial needle over the next several years, in partnership with my current husband.

I don’t know that I would go back to that age, because I really like my life right now. But if I had to go back, I think it would be around that age. There are some money decisions I would do differently, assuming that I could do them differently. I would have to know what I know now in order to do that.

A lot like most of my clients, at that time I wished I was further along. The thing is, we’re always exactly where we are. Instead of focusing on how I should be further along, I could be figuring out the next step, which would make sure that I’m progressing. If I’m always thinking I should be further along, I never actually get where I want to be.

So stop looking back — in other words, stop thinking you should be further along. Instead look ahead — focus on where you want to be and keep figuring out the next step to get there.

Take the example of paying off debt, which is a goal that many of my clients have. If you want to pay off debt, the first step is to figure out what debts you have. Do that first step first. Stay focused on it until it’s done.

Figure out the next step. When you know what debts you have, pick the smallest debt and stay focused on getting that to $0.00 — keep visualizing that statement with that $0.00 balance until you get that statement with that $0.00 in the mailbox.

Then work on the next smallest debt and do this until you have all $0.00 balances. When you focus on the $0.00 balance, you get closer to having that $0.00 balance. Stay focused on the $0.00 balance – the balance you want – instead of focusing on the balance you have. When you focus only on the balance you have, you keep getting that balance.

I promise if you focus on creating a $0.00 balance, that is exactly what you will get. That’s exactly what your brain will create.

Decide what you want more of and then decide to focus on that. Stay laser focused on exactly what you want. Visualize what it will be like when you have it. Imagine what it will feel like when you have it. Do this every day.

Imagine yourself 10 years from now. What do you want to be thinking, feeling, doing?
If someone asks you what age you want to go back to, what will you tell them?

If you want more help making what you want inevitable, book a free 45 minute call with me and I’ll show you how you can do this.

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Do you still believe in what’s possible?

At the Little League World Series Tournament, there was a batter on the Venezuela team that crouched down like a frog to take the pitches. It was one of the strangest things I’ve seen so far at the plate. I wasn’t sure if he was trying to shrink the strike zone or just trying to throw off the pitcher. Whatever his intention, it worked. The pitcher walked him on 4 pitches.

I thought – Wow! Now that’s why it’s important to really believe in the outcome you want. Venezuela was losing at that point in the game. This kid could’ve given up, but he didn’t. Instead, he believed so hard in the outcome he wanted — winning this game and moving onto the semifinals — that he was willing to try anything. Instead of doing nothing, he decided to do something. He could be wrong and look like a fool or be right and look like a hero or just not try and look like a loser. It’s awesome he was willing to just go for it.

What are you doing in your life? Are you going for it? Are you willing to go all out, to try anything, to achieve your results?

These little leaguers came to play and they were not afraid to show up for themselves and their team. They haven’t gathered enough evidence in their short lives yet to use against themselves, to doubt themselves. They still believe more in possibility than in limitations. What can you learn from them?

You could learn that limitations don’t matter — because limitations are subjective, simple opinions. You can believe something is a limitation at the same time someone else sees that as an opportunity. You could learn that it doesn’t pay to operate from a position of fear or worry about failure when you’re out to win. At baseball or at life.

When you’re willing to believe in your result no matter what, anything can be possible. That’s the way I want to live my life — full out — believing that anything is possible. And I’m the one that gets to decide that. I’m the one that’s in control of how I want to show up for the rest of my life.

What do you want to believe?