I don’t have to show up perfectly; I just need to show up….consciously.
If you don’t know this about me, I’m a recovering perfectionist. Before discovering what I call thought work, I thought everything I did had to be perfect. Consequently, nothing I ever did was good enough. I had a lot of self-doubt, I questioned everything I did, I ruminated on every little thing, had anxiety over every interaction with others, sometimes dwelling on a single conversation for days. It was exhausting!
I still have to coach myself on this pretty regularly. The lies I believed for the last I-don’t-even-know-how-many years are still etched in my brain and my brain still offers me thoughts related to this issue that don’t serve me. I coached myself on one this morning.
I am working through all of the things that I need to do to get my life coaching practice started, like designing a website, writing and developing the information I will offer my clients, setting up everything – I don’t want to bore you with the endless details. And I had to question this thought my brain was offering me: I won’t do all of this right.
So what? That’s what I had to ask my brain. Why does this matter? Is there even any way to know, for sure, what “perfect” looks like, what “right” looks like? What I realized is that living authentically is not showing up perfectly – it’s showing up as perfectly imperfect me. Showing up as myself is what I now consider showing up perfectly.
God knows I’m not perfect, the world knows I’m not perfect, so why was I trying to be someone I’m not? It’s exhausting …. and completely unnecessary. I just need to be the best me I can be. And as for the website and all the stuff that I need to do to get my coaching practice going? My new thought is “It doesn’t have to be perfect; it just has to be done. And everything is fixable.”
My finances are a perfect example of this. I’m not perfect at managing my finances, but what I am is intentional. I know that what I do with my money matters and understanding how I make the choices in what to do with my money matters. What I think about money matters. And most of all, it matters that I make those choices about what I think consciously. If I make those choices consciously and I truly like my choices, they will be good choices.
What are your choices? Why do you like your choices?
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