My dog Buster sometimes drives me crazy. I have an instruction manual for Buster that says how he should act at all times. He shouldn’t bark at every little thing. He shouldn’t act like a crazy dog when he sees other dogs. He should walk nicely and calmly on the leash. He shouldn’t want attention when I’m working and he shouldn’t try to attack my husband when he comes to bed at night.
The only problem with my instruction manual is it wasn’t written for Buster – it was written for me. Buster is a beagle and although he may drive me crazy at times, he is working as designed. Not how I would have designed him, because I would have designed him for my convenience. But as his creator designed him.
There is another problem with my instruction manual for Buster. When he doesn’t or can’t live by my instruction manual, the one that wasn’t written with him in mind, I’m disappointed. It drives me crazy. It makes me anxious. I’m the one that suffers.
Then when I suffer, I judge him. I don’t treat him as I want to be treated – with unconditional love. So my instruction manual doesn’t help me and it doesn’t help Buster.
What can I do instead? I can accept Buster with all of his quirks. I can help him understand why he does what he does. I can question if it’s really a problem. I can help him change anything that is truly a problem. But only if he wants to.
The same is true for people. When people drive me crazy, I remind myself that they were not designed for me. They were designed for their journey. I remind myself that nothing has gone wrong and that they are exactly as they should be in this moment in their journey.
Then I just decide to love them exactly as they are.
How could people drive you crazy if how they behaved was no longer a problem? If you accepted them instead of judged them? What if you could love everyone exactly as they are? How would your life be different?
I achieve this when I coach myself, when I question my thinking. I can teach you these same tools. I teach a lot of the same concepts that I use to coach my clients and coach myself each week in my Facebook Live, here in my weekly blog and in emails that I send out to those that are on my email list.
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Twenty years ago, Jill Wright was in debt and living paycheck to paycheck. Through focus and hard work, over the years she and her husband built a nest egg that allowed them to retire in 2018 at ages 50 and 53.
Jill heard God’s call to help other women repaint their own financial future and was eager to answer it. She left her corporate job and became a Financial Confidence Coach. Jill loves helping women give up shame around spending so that they can stop stressing about their money.
She helps strong generous women go from feeling weighed down by their finances to feeling in control so they can focus on being present with their family and building a life they love.