Time is relative. It’s relative to what we have to do. If we have a lot to do, we have a little time and if we have a little to do, we have a lot of time. If we’re doing something we love, time flies by, but if we’re doing something we don’t want to do, time creeps by.
What causes this time relativity? Think about the model I’ve been sharing with you. If you think about the feeling of rushed or pressured, why do you feel rushed? You might say because you don’t have enough time. And you would be right. But you don’t have enough time is a thought – it’s not a fact. Yes, if you think about it, you might come to agree with me.
Think about a Sunday afternoon when you don’t have anything “scheduled”, you don’t have anything on your calendar, no commitments for those few hours after church. Do you feel rushed then? No, if you have nothing that you “have” to do, you might feel relaxed or laid back. An hour is the same amount of time whether you have six things to do or whether you don’t have anything to do, right? It’s the same 60 minutes, the same 360 seconds. So why does it “feel” different?
Because time is relative. Because you have different thoughts about those 60 minutes.
That’s the only thing that changes.
If I have a list of things to do, I can still feel relaxed about that time … if the thought I’m thinking about that time is a thought that makes me feel relaxed. If the thought I’m thinking makes me feel rushed, then I might feel like I don’t have enough time. But time is a neutral circumstance and doesn’t change … only our thoughts about the circumstance, the time, change. And that’s what makes time relative.
You can decide that you have enough time and you will find evidence of that.
When I believe I have enough time, I only commit to 24 hours a day, and therefore I have enough time becomes true for me. When I believe that I don’t have enough time, I commit to more than 24 hours worth of stuff a day, and therefore that becomes true for me. Or I commit to 24 hours or less worth of stuff, but I might not be efficient at doing that 24 hours worth of stuff so it takes me more than 24 hours to do, which also makes it true for me that I don’t have enough time. Isn’t that crazy?
You can actually decide to believe anything you want to believe. It’s true. Some beliefs take more thought work for you to come to believe them, but it’s not only true about time, but about everything in your life. Your brain really is that powerful.
My challenge to you is to test this out. Believe that “I have enough time” Is true for you. You truly do have enough time. You don’t “have” to do anything. You don’t “have” to clean the house, you don’t “have” to mow the lawn, you don’t “have” to feed the children, you don’t “have” to go to work, and so on. I’m not saying that there aren’t consequences for not doing these things, but they are all choices. I choose to comply with laws so I don’t go to jail, but I don’t have to. I have a choice. Want proof? Turn on the news – people make choices to not comply with the moral code or laws in our society all the time.
You have to decide what is important to you and how you want to spend your time. You also have to decide how productive and efficient you are. I’m writing this blog. It might take me 30 minutes, or an hour or an hour and a half. Whatever time I decide it should take me is how much time I use for it. But whether it takes me 30 minutes or 90 minutes, I have enough time to write the blog. Why? Because I decided how long it would take me and I’m in charge of my time.
You are in charge of your time, just like you are in charge of your money. How can you have enough?
You decide it’s enough.
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Twenty years ago, Jill Wright was in debt and living paycheck to paycheck. Through focus and hard work, over the years she and her husband built a nest egg that allowed them to retire in 2018 at ages 50 and 53.
Jill heard God’s call to help other women repaint their own financial future and was eager to answer it. She left her corporate job and became a Financial Confidence Coach. Jill loves helping women give up shame around spending so that they can stop stressing about their money.
She helps strong generous women go from feeling weighed down by their finances to feeling in control so they can focus on being present with their family and building a life they love.