Own Your Feelings

When I look at my life and some of the messes I have made I cringe. It’s very uncomfortable to own some of that stuff. But I let it be my teacher. 

Brooke Castillo, owner of The Life Coach School, says, “The worst that can happen is a feeling.”

In my experience this is true. When I remember this, I realize that I can do anything. I can believe anything. Think about it. What are some reasons that you haven’t done some things in your life. What is driving those decisions? It’s usually fear.

How has fear put limits on your life?

In my life, that looks like this. I didn’t get out there and meet people because I feel socially awkward and I was afraid that people would realize that I was boring and uninteresting and had nothing to say and they wouldn’t want to be around me. 

After managing my mind, though, I may sometimes still have those thoughts, but I don’t engage with those thoughts. Because they aren’t useful to me. I don’t have to believe those thoughts. What I choose to think instead is I’m not out there meeting people for myself. I’m out there loving on people because people love to connect and I don’t have to be interesting and I don’t have to have a lot to say. I’m not there to talk – I’m there to connect and to learn from people and about people and that’s not about me. 

That’s about them. And the worst that can happen is a feeling. And I can control my feelings when I can control my thoughts. I can choose to make it all about them. I can choose to be there for them, just for simple, unpretentious human connection. Just authentic, simple connection. And I can enjoy them. Listening to them, crying with them, laughing with them, collaborating with them, learning from them, whatever gift God has for each of us that day. I can just be present for that.

My emotions are a gift from God – my emotions help me experience everything in life to the fullest. I am grateful for every single thing, the good the bad and the ugly. It means I’m alive and I’m present on this journey and I accept everything and love everything. It’s all here for me.

Don’t discount the power of emotions to shape your life to allow you to experience all of life. Don’t limit yourself to just the ones that “feel” good. Be there for the entire journey and see how that changes the game for you. 

That’s my challenge for you this week – open yourself to feel everything and learn what is causing each of those emotions that you feel this week. Notice what you’re thinking when you’re feeling positive emotions, what you’re thinking when you’re feeling negative emotions. 

Are those thoughts useful to you? Are they helping you become the person you want to be or are they keeping your authentic self hidden? Are they helping you love or are they keeping you from loving? Are they helping you move forward or holding you back?

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Twenty years ago, Jill Wright was in debt and living paycheck to paycheck. Through focus and hard work, over the years she and her husband built a nest egg that allowed them to retire in 2018 at ages 50 and 53.

Jill heard God’s call to help other women repaint their own financial future and was eager to answer it. She left her corporate job and became a Financial Confidence Coach. Jill loves helping women give up shame around spending so that they can stop stressing about their money.

She helps strong generous women go from feeling weighed down by their finances to feeling in control so they can focus on being present and supporting their family.