Have you lost yourself among the chaos of your life? You can take your life back and start dreaming of an amazing future for yourself and your family.
I have always been more about giving than receiving. Too often in my past, that has led to becoming overburdened and eventually resentment of those I was “giving” to. It was easier for me to take on additional responsibilities at work and at home than for me to feel like I was burdening someone else. The problem is that over delivering for people led to a me getting burned out and then resenting the very people I was trying to help.
This resentment didn’t come from a place of love and compassion and generosity. It came from a place of overwhelm and defeat as I realized that I was exhausted. It was not sustainable. It also led to others not developing independence and skill sets they needed to be their very best selves. So what started as “giving” actually ended up robbing both me and them of the opportunity to become our best selves.
You can avoid this – or if you’re already guilty of this – you can nip it in the bud.
Whenever you catch yourself wanting to overdeliver for the people in your life, stop, look and listen. Look at your reasons. Listen to your internal wisdom as you answer some probing questions. Ask yourself why you want to overdeliver. Ask yourself how this could impact the recipient of this “gift”. Will it really be a help to them or will it rob them of education or development that they will need later? Ask yourself why you want to do this? If it’s because you think that they won’t do it right, ask why? Ask if it’s okay if they do it not as well as you would. Ask if it will benefit them to get feedback on doing it not quite right. Does it truly matter? Is B minus work okay in this scenario? Would it give them confidence? Would it help you to not put this extra thing on your already full plate? If you still want to do it, are you doing it from a place of love, compassion and abundance or from a place of fear or compulsion?
Finding the answers to questions like these can help you become more intentional and can help you draw the line on adding additional responsibilities that you might later regret and eventually resent.
Learning how to be more intentional means questioning your thinking when you get the urge to take on those things that you find add overwhelm or chaos to your days. Through this process, you can learn how to lovingly and peacefully take back your life. This frees you up to become more present and to start planning for an amazing future.
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Twenty years ago, Jill Wright was in debt and living paycheck to paycheck. Through focus and hard work, over the years she and her husband built a nest egg that allowed them to retire in 2018 at ages 50 and 53.Jill heard God’s call to help other women repaint their own financial future and was eager to answer it. She left her corporate job and became a Financial Confidence Coach. Jill loves helping women give up shame around spending so that they can stop stressing about their money.
She helps strong generous women go from feeling weighed down by their finances to feeling in control so they can focus on being present with their family and building a life they love.