CONNECT the DOTS
CONNECT the DOTS
We’re almost halfway through February.
It’s that time of year where most New Year’s Resolutions are but a memory.
It’s where we realize that we’re not on track for our goals and we’re panicking.
Even our “Realistic” goals are starting to feel less than realistic.
Our Expansive and Delusional goals feel beyond impossible.
Here’s how you can get back on track and make up time … EASILY.
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How many of you made New Year’s Resolutions?
Well, it’s that time of year where most people have already abandoned their resolutions. What about you?
That doubt creeped in. That insecurity reared its ugly head. You might have even disconnected with what made those resolutions important to you in the first place. Life happens and the goals we set seem like they’re further away than when we started.
That question of what made me think this was possible pops into your head more and more often. You push it out.
Until the goals you set feel impossible. Well, I want to help you reconnect with those goals that were important to you when you set them. And I’m going to help you make it easier to get back on track and achieve them. Here. We. Go.
When you set those goals, what did you want? Where did those goals come from? Why were they important to you?
If you didn’t set goals, why not? Why was that important to you?
What makes what you want impossible? Today I’m going to share the three things that make what feels impossible possible.
Here are the three things:
- Mindset and
That’s what I want to share with you today, so that you can get back in the game and get on track to reach your goals.
The first one is resources.
What kind of resources do you need in order to make the impossible possible?
In order to make the impossible possible, you have to focus the resources you have on the main objective, on the main goal, so the first thing you need is goals.
Your goals should inform your decisions in your business. That’s why it’s important to set goals. Goals inform all the decisions you make in your business. Goals also inform your plans for the year, for the quarter, for the month, for the week, so goals are a foundation to creating what it is that you actually want.
Goals force you to think at a higher level and when you think at a higher level you achieve at a higher level.
I’ll say that again: Goals force you to think at a higher level and when you think at a higher level you achieve at a higher level.
And especially goals that matter to you. When you set goals based on what you want, and not just on what you want, but based on what you really, really want, you’re more likely to achieve those goals. You’re more likely to keep going. You’re more likely to be willing to fail along the way. You’re more likely to figure it out.
Think about when you had kids. When you had the first one, it was super scary. Here was this tiny human relying solely on you. But what were your options? Give up? That was not an option, so what did you do? You kept going, you were willing to be wrong and fail, because you mostly didn’t have a choice, you asked for help, until you figured it out. And you did figure it out. But it was because you didn’t question whether or not you would do it. You knew in your soul you would hang in there no matter what and you would do whatever it took.
Think of your business as your baby. Are you willing to feel like crap when it feels like it’s not working and keep going anyway? Are you willing to fail and to get back up the next day and try again? Are you willing to hang in there and do whatever it takes? It’s not really so much about the doing as it is about the feeling. What I’m asking is are you willing to FEEL whatever it takes?
I talk a lot about what you want. I actually ask myself that question most days. I keep a dream journal and every day (most days), I write down what I want. Your goals should come from what you want. What YOU want — what you really, really want. Goals shouldn’t come from what you SHOULD want. Goals shouldn’t come from what somebody else is doing. Goals shouldn’t come from where you SHOULD be in your business. Goals should come from what you want.
The more you strengthen that muscle of wanting what you want, the easier it’s going to be for you to set goals. And not because we always get exactly what we want when we want it. Because we know that in life we don’t always get what we want. But that’s the starting point. You’re not going to go after something unless you recognize that you want it. And you’re less likely to get what you don’t ask for, because you’re not focused on it. It’s not even on your radar.
That’s why it’s important to keep dreaming and keep wanting and to keep giving yourself permission to want what you want.
Goals are fuel for your dreams and your goals. That’s why I consider goals resources. There are other resources you’ll need to reach your goals, but you can’t identify the resources you need — time, money, energy, knowledge, and so on — until you know what your goals are. And you can’t start planning for those resources until you know what you need.
The next thing that you need other than resources is the Mindset to achieve those goals. I alluded to this minute ago when I said that you need to think at a higher level in order to achieve at a higher level. Mindset is about thinking at a higher level in order to fuel your goals. Goals require us to think at a higher level and thinking at a higher level is what fuels the reaching of your goals.
Mindset is faith that it’s possible. Mindset is believing that you’re capable. Mindset is identifying perspectives that fuel you instead of defeat you.
I’m not an expert at the doing of this. I’m an expert at seeing my clients’ limiting beliefs and helping them to explore alternatives and commit to belief plans, but I’m just like you when it comes to doing this for myself. We can do this for our clients all day long, but it’s different when we’re in our own head. That’s why I’m committed to having a coach to show me what I show my clients.
Our mindset can get in the way. What do I mean by mindset?
It’s noticing what comes up for you when you set goals. Do you feel constricted in your throat area? Do you feel like someone is sitting on your chest? Do you feel like there’s a heavy piece of granite in your gut?
What happens when you sit down to plan out those goals? Do you spin in confusion, get stuck in overwhelm, or avoid it altogether? And what about when you get the plan finished and try to execute the plan? Do you get restless, go get something to drink or eat, get sidetracked, let yourself find something you “forgot” was important and urgent and wind up putting it off? Do you sabotage your efforts to avoid the painful disappointment your brain thinks lies ahead?
That’s what we need to clean up in order to make the impossible possible.
Think what would prevent you from getting to that goal. MASTER that, then look at the next thing preventing you from getting there and MASTER that.
I use my MASTER process to do this. M stands for Money Lie — it’s whatever you’re believing that’s preventing you from achieving it. A stands for Awareness, which we build as ammunition to battle the Money Lies. S stands for Scrutinize, taking that ammunition in the Awareness stage and questioning our limitations. T is for Transforming our identity — most times, we don’t see ourselves as the person that can achieve that goal and that’s what keeps us from doing it. It’s because of what we believe about ourselves, even though we might not know we believe it because it’s just been part of who we are since childhood. E is for elevating our thinking to expand our possibilities and R in MASTER is for Reinforcing and assimilating all that we’ve learned in M through E to Reinforce who we are and who we’re continuing to become. That’s how I help my clients MASTER their money mindset.
Typically the first thing that’s gonna come up for you is “yeah I don’t know how”. And the next thing that will come up is “I don’t have the resources” or ” I don’t have the skill set”.
Just notice that you also don’t have the mindset, because if you did have the mindset, it wouldn’t matter that you didn’t know how — you would figure it out. And if you did have the mindset, it wouldn’t matter that you didn’t have the resources, or the skill set, because you would go get whatever you need. If you’re baking brownies and you find that you don’t have eggs and you really want brownies or you really need to make brownies for the kids to take to school the next day, you’re going to find a way to get what you need.
When you have the mindset, nothing is impossible. You just need to identify the limitations, then close those gaps. That’s what makes what feels impossible possible.
And then the third thing is decisions and I listed decisions last, but you’re always making decisions. You have to make some decisions in order to even set your goals. In order to set your goals, you have to decide what you want, you have to decide why you want it, you have to decide what you wanna do in order to get it, you have to decide on a plan and a strategy. There are lots of decisions you have to make in your business.
You have to become a good decision maker. What makes you a good decision maker is that you make as many decisions ahead of time as you can, because the more decisions you make in the moment, the more energy, effort and resources are going to go into that decision. When you make the decision ahead of time, you eliminate a lot of the drama that tends to come up in the moment, because when you’re making decisions ahead of time, there’s not really anything at stake. The reason that we get stuck, the reasons that we backpedal on our decisions, the reason that we procrastinate is that in the moment there are more things at stake. Fear comes up, doubt comes up, insecurity, overwhelm, pressure all come up in the moment. But when you’re making a decision ahead of time, nothing’s at stake at the time you’re making the decision, so you can be more open and more rational.
To make good decisions and powerful decisions, you have to have a strong compass. You have to have some criteria to make those decisions from. Goals inform your decisions. They’re a filter you can run your decisions through. Does this get me closer to my goal or further away? A simple question you can ask — but only if you have goals. What other filters can you create to make your decisions easier? The less resources you use in making decisions, the more resources you have to use in executing on those decisions and in showing up powerfully in that execution.
A budget can also inform your decisions — particularly financial decisions in your business. You still have time to develop a strong budget for 2022. As a matter of fact, I just finished mine, so if you want help in this area, let’s chat.
The more filters you can create ahead of time to run your decisions through and the more you can do that ahead of time instead of in the moment, the easier decisions will be for you.
What makes the impossible possible?
What impossible thing just became possible for you?