Jill Wright, Financial Confidence Coach
I’m not sure who is worse about asking for help (or directions ☺️) – women or men – but I’ve been noticing lately that it’s pretty prevalent among people my age and older. I’m not sure that it’s as prevalent in younger generations, but I could be mistaken.
I know that I’ve struggled with this. I don’t want to appear weak or incapable or needy. I also don’t want to be a burden to others or be vulnerable. On the other hand, I love helping people!
Just think – if no one was willing to admit that they need help, I would be out of a job. Come to think of it, maybe that’s why I am not successful at getting people to sign up to coach with me lately. It could be a number of things. Perhaps they don’t know they need help or they don’t know that I can help them. Maybe they know they need help, but they are not ready to admit that to anyone else. Maybe they don’t want to feel uncomfortable talking to me about what they are struggling with. Maybe they are afraid that they will uncover other things in the process that they think they aren’t yet ready to deal with.
I have probably experienced most of these – and others that I didn’t list – at some point in my life. And at the time, they seemed very real. They were valid, but they just weren’t serving me. At some point, I just got the shove that I needed to reach out and ask for help. I wasn’t intentional about it, but I’m thankful for the grace of God that gave me that shove.
Personal finances are …. well, very personal. So, I get that the step of seeking help getting these things together takes a lot of courage and maybe a little bit of discomfort. Would you rather step out and feel uncomfortable sharing your foibles, weaknesses and mistakes about your finances AND move forward into financial confidence, success, freedom and peace OR would you rather continue to live with the shame, guilt and discomfort AND perpetuate your financial disfunction? If you’re going to be uncomfortable either way, you might as well choose the path that provides the most hope.
What issues in your life are you putting off dealing with because you’ve allowed your brain to convince you that it’s easier this way? Better is available – you just have to reach out across the river of misery to grab it.
I’ll be on the other side to help you out of the river.❤️
Contact me at MoreMoneyCents@gmail.com to schedule a free 45-minute coaching session to hear how I can help.