Did you get anything for Christmas that you wanted to return?
What didn’t you like about this Christmas? Did you spend too much money? Were you stressed and anxious? Did you wish you had handled things differently? Whatever regrets you might have, the past is just a circumstance. You can’t change the past. The question is what do you want to think about the past, about that circumstance that you can’t change? One option is “I’m grateful for what that experience taught me.” You can write it down (write down what the situation was, what you think went wrong, what went right) and, without judgment, evaluate what you can learn from it, what educational benefit the experience gave you (like a gift that keeps on giving) and move on. Our past is only about events that have happened. Our past does not define who we are and it certainly does not define who we are becoming. Each day is a brand new opportunity to make decisions that drive us forward toward who we want to become and what we want to create in our life. In a sense, each day is a do-over. We cannot do anything about yesterday, but we can control what we think in the present and we can believe in what we can become and create in the future. I would love to show you how.
Twenty years ago, Jill Wright was in debt and living paycheck to paycheck. Through focus and hard work, over the years she and her husband built a nest egg that allowed them to retire in 2018 at ages 50 and 53.
Jill heard God’s call to help other women repaint their own financial future and was eager to answer it. She left her corporate job and became a Financial Confidence Coach. Jill loves helping women give up shame around spending so that they can stop stressing about their money. She helps strong generous women go from feeling weighed down to feeling free, from feeling burdened to feeling lifted up, from feeling their way in the darkness to navigating their way to a hopeful future.
Jill volunteers in her community as a coordinator for Financial Peace University, serves on the boards of Barefoot Republic, Coach Approach and Day 7, and is a mentor for Leaving the Cocoon, a prison ministry for women. Follow Jill at More Money Cents, her business page on Facebook. Book Your Complimentary Sample Session
Recently I shared 5 Ways to Generate Joy at Christmas. I shared a thought model for each idea I had for generating joy with a thought that I might think that would generate joy.
But what if you’re thinking something like one of these thoughts:
–This is a bad time of year for me and my family.
–I can’t pinpoint why, but I just don’t like this time of year.
–It’s hard to be joyful when I’m stressed about money.
–It’s hard to find joy when I’m living paycheck to paycheck and I don’t know how I’m going to pay for Christmas gifts.
–It’s hard feel generous when I don’t have the money to spend on gifts.
I teach my clients that they create their own experiences in their life. We have a thought about a circumstance and that thought makes us feel a certain way, an emotion. We act in a certain way based on how we’re feeling and our actions lead to the results we see in our lives.
So if I want to feel differently, I need to think differently.
If I want different results, I need to think differently.
Most of us see what we’re thinking as just a fact of life. I don’t have enough money to pay for Christmas – that seems like a fact. But when we drill down on why that is, we start to realize that is only a thought. And all thoughts are optional. We can choose to think that we don’t have enough money to pay for Christmas, but who is to say what is considered enough? A fact is something that is incontrovertible evidence and if enough is subject to interpretation, it’s not a fact.
Even more than that, when I believe the thought that I don’t have enough to pay for Christmas, then I show up in a way that projects that behavior onto my money. I treat my money as if it’s not enough, and the money, not knowing any better, shows up that way as well. So now I have manifested the exact thing that I didn’t want because of what I was thinking.
We want to only believe the thoughts that manifest what we want and stop believing the thoughts that bring us results that we don’t want.
So if you’re having trouble generating joy, instead try first to stop generating the results that you don’t want, then go back to trying to generate joy. Once you stop generating what you don’t want, it will make you more open to receiving what you do want.
Have a blessed week!
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In 2000, Jill Wright was in debt and living paycheck to paycheck. Through focus and hard work, she paid off her debt and began building her savings. Over the years, she and her husband completely transformed their financial life and built a nest egg that allowed them to retire at ages 50 and 53.
In 2018, Jill heard God’s call to help other women repaint their own financial future and was eager to answer it. She left her corporate job and became a Financial Confidence Coach. Jill loves helping women give up shame around spending so that they can stop stressing and have peace around their money.
Jill volunteers in her community as a coordinator for Financial Peace University, serves on the boards of Barefoot Republic, Coach Approach and Day 7, and is a mentor for Leaving the Cocoon, a prison ministry for women. Follow Jill at More Money Cents, her business page on Facebook. Visit Me on Facebook
Twenty years ago, Jill Wright was in debt and living paycheck to paycheck. Through focus and hard work, over the years she and her husband built a nest egg that allowed them to retire in 2018 at ages 50 and 53.