What is fear robbing you of?

How does a scarcity mindset rob you of your best self, your best life and your best contributions?

That’s what I’ll be talking about this week as part of a Self Care Summit that Day 7 (https://www.day-7.org/), one of my favorite nonprofits, is hosting.

In today’s blog, I wanted to talk about what scarcity mindset robs us of. Scarcity mindset breeds fear. Fear can rob us of so many things.

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What are the steps to becoming invincible?

What are the steps to becoming bulletproof, unshakeable, unstoppable? Wouldn’t you like to know?

If you can identify what keeps you from having or doing any of the following, you can become invincible and when you become invincible in your business, you can make the money you were meant for.

I’ll list them here, then I’ll briefly describe what I mean by each one. Whatever obstacles are standing in the way of any of these for you, just develop a strategy to eliminate that obstacle. Go on to do this for each one and you will be GOLDEN.

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Why would we continue to pick a fight we know we’ll lose?

Byron Katie says, “When you argue with reality, you lose, but only 100% of the time.”

This is how I think of arguing with reality.

You have a circumstance. There is nothing you can do to change it. Normally when I see this, it’s a circumstance in the past. It would sound something like, “That shouldn’t have happened.” It could be something in the present, which might be something like, “This should not be happening.”

Either way, it is something you can’t change, something out of your control.

Arguing with reality is thinking it should be different. No amount of thinking it should be different will change the circumstance. When you argue with reality you might spin endlessly believing that it’s not fair. This corresponds with a core belief that everything that happens in the world should be fair (or humane, or just, or kind, or joyful, good, etc.).

How do we know that it shouldn’t be? Because it isn’t. If the world was supposed to be perfect, it would be.

We focus on the things that aren’t the way we think shouldn’t be that way – the things that are wrong, awful, horrendous, tragic, etc.. Guess what? What we focus on grows.

When we believe that it shouldn’t have happened, we’re focusing on that it did happen, we have some belief about it happening, which makes us more likely to find more evidence of it happening. This perpetuates the cycle of suffering.

Contrast that with focusing on whatever is true, honorable, respectful, right, pure, wholesome, lovely, peaceful, admirable, excellent, praiseworthy, loving, lovely, kind, gracious, merciful and good. When we focus on these things, these things grow. We find evidence of what we believe about a world that is mostly these things.

I just don’t see an upside to believing that things that should be different when we clearly can’t make them different. It’s possible we could change something in the future, but that’s not likely to happen when we’re spinning in frustration, discouragement and fear. Rarely does productive change come from negative emotion.

By believing things should be different, I’m arguing with reality. And I lose 100% of the time. I’m the one that suffers. My suffering does not change reality. All of my spinning and judgment and disappointment, which leads to more suffering, doesn’t change reality. Because I’m not in control of reality.

The only thing I’m in control of is what I do, how I act, how I show up right now.

I have two choices.

I can accept reality and believe something that moves me forward OR I can refuse to accept reality and instead continue to argue with reality. I will waste what I do have and meanwhile, reality’s not changing. So who loses?

The trap I see people fall into with this concept of arguing with reality what they are calling “reality”.

Before you decide if you’re arguing with reality you need to define reality. Be conscious of what you think is reality. Is it reality or how you’re interpreting reality? Sometimes, it feels so real that sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference.

But so many times what feels like reality is really your thoughts about the situation.

“The fact is … “
“That’s just the way it is. “
“The fact of the matter is … “
“The reality of the situation is … “

These are usually dead giveaways that it’s not actually a fact. It’s a thought.

Arguing with reality comes from scarcity. But not accepting the way things are and agonizing over what you shouldn’t have lost only means you aren’t focused on what you do have, you miss out what’s right in front of you and you don’t position yourself to receive and create MORE.

If you want to stop living in scarcity and start living in abundance. If you want to make the most of what you have to use your business to impact the lives of your ideal clients, I know how to do that.

I’ll help you expose the lies that are keeping you stuck so that you can uncover the truth that helps you sign more clients, help more people and make more money.

Because YOU are MADE for MORE!

I have a spot in my MASTER MONEY program. Just apply, schedule a call with me and let me help you see how much more you were made for.

YOU are MADE for MORE – expose the MONEY LIES uncover the truth that leads to your MORE!