Who’s Your Biggest Cheerleader?

Cheerleaders

Any mom that decides to become an entrepreneur deserves a cheerleader. Because let’s face it – being a great mom is tough enough, especially if you’re the one they rely on as their foundation.

You’ve got a tough job, and throw being a great entrepreneur on top of that and it can be a bit overwhelming.

I salute you.

That’s why I became a coach.

I wanted to cheer on those that might not have their own cheering section.

You’re already undervalued for the job you do. You need someone that will help you see your value. That’s what I do.

I’ve always been an encourager. Seeing things in people that they don’t necessarily see in themselves comes pretty naturally for me.

People are usually shocked when they learn that I was a cheerleader in high school. I was even the captain of the cheerleading squad one year. They are shocked because I have a very quiet voice, it’s not loud and it doesn’t carry well. I’m a bit shy and introverted by nature and I’m not bubbly.

But I loved being a cheerleader! Even though I don’t like to be the center of attention. Maybe that’s what makes me a great coach and maybe that’s what made me a good cheerleader.

I love highlighting other people. I love encouraging them and cheering them on. I love helping them believe that they can win.

The other thing I love is being a solid foundation. When I was a cheerleader, I was never on the top. I was always pretty strong and solid – that’s what you get growing up with five brothers – so I was the one the other girls were climbing on.

That was exactly where I wanted to be. I have more of a quiet steady strength.

I always wanted to be someone that people could count on. I wanted to be exactly what people needed. Other girls didn’t want to be on the bottom and I was happy to stand in the gap for them. They knew I would stand solid. I would be there for them. I would not crumble beneath the weight of those on top of me.

When you have a solid foundation, you can trust in your safety, your security. You can trust in your future. My solid foundation is, first and foremost, my faith in God. I lean on that foundation daily. My next most solid foundation is my faith in myself. I know that I can count on myself to be there no matter what. It’s may not always pretty or easy, but I have no doubt that I will always do whatever it takes to see something through.

Who are you for your clients? How do you your clients see you? What do you want them to take away from your program? How do you want them to grow and thrive?

I would love to hear your thoughts on this. Shoot me a quick email at jill@jillwrightcoaching.com and let me know.

What’s the MORE that you’re resisting?

It’s so interesting to watch what our brains do. It’s completely fascinating. We all have our story – the story about who we are.

And story is such an appropriate word.

Sometimes it’s a fairy tale sometimes a horror flick and sometimes a documentary. My point is that not everything we’re believing about our story is absolute, incontrovertible TRUTH.

But we sure act like it is. And we resist anyone disturbing it.

And that’s okay.

You get to pick the story you believe.

Because you are the boss of you.

You are in complete control.

What completely fascinates me is the resistance I notice in my clients to choosing a story that’s MORE abundant, MORE fun, MORE successful, just MORE. Even though they say they want MORE, they resist the MORE that God has for them.

They resist believing a story that IS About abundance and FREEDOM.

Why the resistance? And it’s not just my clients’ brains that do this. I do it too.

So what’s going on?

Why do they choose the story where they have so many limits?

  • Where they have debt?
  • Where they don’t have the business they want?
  • Where they don’t make the difference they’ve always wanted to make?
  • Where they don’t enjoy the money they were meant to have? 
  • Why is that so much easier to choose? 

Here’s what I think:

  1. It’s safe. It requires no extra pain, no extra effort.
  2. It doesn’t match their identity. When they look in the mirror, it’s not who they see. It feels like they’re pretending or lying to themselves.
  3. It means they’ll have to do A LOT more WORK to get that. They don’t want the extra responsibility and if they do, they don’t feel capable of it.

So they push it away. They resist it.

As a coach, it’s my job to notice that resistance and to help them challenge it. Then help them change it.

Yes, it can be uncomfortable for you to acknowledge that resistance. 

But acknowledging your resistance, not judging yourself for feeling it and showing yourself some grace? All keys to overcoming it.

When you overcome this resistance, you give yourself permission to step into that identity. Living that reality before you see that reality is critical to making your new identity, your new reality.

You don’t have to be ready.

You don’t have to fully believe it now.

You don’t have to fully believe it 100% of the time.

You just have to be committed to it. Practice being committed to the reality you WANT.

Dale Carnegie, in How To Win Friends & Influence People, shared the quote,

‘By fighting you never get enough, but by yielding you get more than you expected.’

What’s the story you want to make a reality? What would happen if you stopped fighting, stopped resisting it?

What’s your next step to making that story a reality? Put it on your calendar right now.

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